Hi lovelies!
So the holidays are here, which I know doesn’t inspire much happiness or cheer in all of us. Personally, I don’t celebrate Christmas, never have actually but I did celebrate Kwanzaa every year growing up! Either way, I know around the holidays, we like to spread a little good fortune… and considering my work is in sex, I don’t have much to share outside of knowledge and stories (& the heaux tales can’t be free, I’m sorry 😭) So, knowledge it is!
I’m very invested in a pleasure activism that isn’t explicitly sexual, but rather ask us to seek out leisure and joy more than we are now… not a bad sentiment right? Anyway, I made y’all a little Pleasure Resolutions Flyer for the new year as a jumping off point to sprinkling some more opulence in your life. Nothing too out there, just small steps we can all take to be more present in our bodies and really allow our vessels to experience gentler, more intentional sensation moving forward. Feel free to look over what’s already on there and add your own items.
I’ve also included some worksheets from classes I taught back in my pre-pandemic Sexploration 101 days. The information is still relevant and I couldn’t possibly let graphics this cute go to waste— I think they’re cute, not too much on my graphic design skills.
As we waltz into the New Year together, I hope we make plans to be honest in our intentions, clear in our ask for pleasure, and optimistic about our ability to change the world, however our skills and expertise allow us to. For me? Its sex education, history and liberation politic, and for others it’ll be healthcare or tech & a bunch of other equally important things. We can do good work together, and I believe we will as long as we keep our eyes on the REAL enemy- White Supremacist, Capitalist, Cisheteropatriachy that is, and invest in our communities. Whether that’s joining a local bookclub, walking your elderly neighbor’s dog or actually showing up at the potluck you RSVP’d to. There’s pleasure to be had in revolutionary acts as well and we should be seeking it!
Before signing off, I just want to thank you all for supporting me this year. Whether it’s following me on socials or reading/sharing my work, it’s all seen and appreciated. If you’re able, please consider upgrading to a paid subscription, I’d like to think there are worse things to spend 5 bucks a month on and it would directly support my efforts to get comprehensive, well-informed writing to you sooner, I’m even running an end of year sale.
If not, it’s all good, you’re valued here either way :) I intend to kick the year off on a lighter note so expect something a bit more jovial in the inboxes this January, except for the Heaux’s Know newsletter, something tells me the sex/repro justice news is gonna be on some fuck shit to kick 23’ off.
For those struggling: I hope you’re kissed by light long enough to see past the darkness. I’ve been there and I’m sending you all the virtual hugs and cheek smooches (with your consent obvi.) that I can give.
To all, enjoy your holidays and New Years, kiss hotties (someone please for me, I’m too single 🫠), giggle with bubbly drinks in hand and preach the gospel of pleasure, always!
Until next year,
Nia Òla 💛